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How to Gain Matrimonial Harmony in Life
Loyalty and Respect
Each man likes to think that he is the head of his house – as he should be. However, a man should be a partner in a home – not a ruler. Good manners in marriage mean loyalty to and respect for the other partner, but this loyalty and respect should be earned, not demanded.
Share Responsibility
A man should share the responsibility in the management of the family finances, with the wife fully understanding the limitations of a pay cheque and the obligations which must be met each month. It is necessary that someone carries on the family’s financial obligations and keep an accurate account of the expenditures.
Work Together in a Team
A young wife may have had little experience in financial matters before marriage, and a young husband may have had almost as little financial experience himself. It is important that a young couple work together as a team in sharing the household responsibilities, unless one is incompetent. But what appears to be incompetence may only be inexperience.
Evaluate the Responsibilities
Partnership in marriage includes a sound evaluation of each other’s responsibilities: a man with his busy routine and his career—related problems and worries; a woman with a house to maintain, food to cook, and children to care for. Sometimes a woman even combines these household activities with a career, or a part-time career, with little or no household help.
Monetary Allowance
A happy household is one where both the man and woman have a certain monetary allowance for their own personal use, with no strings attached, whatsoever.
Sense of Equality
A husband often lends a hand, and the wife will do the same in jobs frequently considered the specific chore of the other. But a man should not be required to do a woman’s work any more than a woman should be expected to do a man’s work or to contribute too much as bread-winner. It is important that neither the husband nor the wife holds the extra work as a mental club over the other.
Be Life Partner Instead of Dominant
A partnership in marriage means that both partners say “we” instead of “I” and “our” instead of “my” with the exception that official business is the husband’s concern only. A partnership, however, does not mean that one or the other cannot have any liberty of thought or action. Partnership and domination do not go hand in hand. Always remain loving and caring for each other because
Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend. Famous Martin Luther King
